Menopause symptoms in summer: hot, knackered and wondering what happened to your routine?

The version of summer we imagine in April is always quite seductive. Long evenings, easy meals, more time outside, a slower pace - maybe even that fantasy version of ourselves who walks every morning, eats glorious Mediterranean salads and somehow sleeps beautifully because the evenings are light and life feels easier.

Then July arrives and absolutely none of that happens. The kids are off school. The routine has packed a bag and left without forwarding details. Social plans start breeding in the diary. The evenings are long, but you are still knackered. It is too hot to cook, too hot to sleep and every gathering seems to involve a glass of something cold appearing in your hand before you have even worked out whether you are thirsty.

And if you are in perimenopause or menopause, summer can add an extra layer of chaos.

Hot flushes in hot weather. Delightful.

Sleep that was already a bit temperamental becoming even more elusive because the bedroom feels like a greenhouse.

More alcohol than usual, followed by the 3am wake-up you did not order.

Eating patterns becoming slightly random because breakfast was late, lunch was crisps and hummus at 3pm and dinner was whatever somebody put on the barbecue.

Then, somewhere in the middle of all that, you start wondering why you feel so tired, puffy, snacky and generally a bit unlike yourself.

Welcome to menopause symptoms in summer. It can be a lot.

Why menopause symptoms can feel harder in summer

Summer is one of the most routine-scrambling times of the year, yet we somehow expect ourselves to glide through it looking like a woman in a yoghurt advert.

We do not.

What often happens instead is a gradual loosening of all the little things that normally help us feel well.

Bedtime gets later because the evening stretches on.

Sleep gets lighter because it is hot, bright and your internal thermostat may already be behaving like it has lost the plot.

Meals become less predictable.

You graze more.

There are more social occasions, more meals out and more “shall we just have another?” moments.

Movement routines disappear because the gym is hot, you are away, the kids are around or your usual schedule no longer exists.

Then energy dips, but there is still this weird cultural pressure to be having the BEST TIME because apparently sunshine should cancel out fatigue.

It does not.

The gap between the summer we pictured and the summer we are actually having is where a lot of women start to lose their footing.

Nothing dramatic happens.

You just feel a little more tired.

A little more bloated.

A little hungrier.

A little less in control around food.

You are sleeping badly, but staying up later anyway.

You are moving less, but somehow still feel permanently busy.

Then the thought creeps in:

I’ll sort myself out when summer is over.

And that is where the downhill slide can begin.

Menopause, hot weather and sleep can be a rotten combination

If sleep is already one of your shakier menopause areas, summer can expose every wobble.

You go to bed later because it is still light.

The room is too warm.

You wake sweaty.

You wake because somebody outside has decided 11.45pm is the perfect time for a barbecue.

Then the sun comes blazing through the curtains at stupid o’clock and your body decides that five hours was plenty.

Spoiler: it was not.

Poor sleep then tends to make everything else feel harder.

Your energy drops.

Your appetite can feel louder.

Your patience disappears.

Your motivation to cook something sensible heads off in the same direction as your patience.

This is where women often assume they need to “get stricter” with food, when actually the first thing worth protecting might be sleep.

Because trying to make perfect food choices when you are running on fumes is a crap strategy.

Menopause and alcohol can be a bit of a plot twist too

Summer and alcohol tend to travel as a pair.

Rosé in the garden.

Fizz at the wedding.

Cocktails on holiday.

A cold beer because it is Friday and the sun is out.

None of that is morally good or bad, but menopause can change how alcohol lands.

A couple of drinks can mean worse sleep, more night waking, hotter nights and a morning where your Fitbit is basically asking if you survived.

And when sleep is already one of your vulnerable spots, it does not take much for the knock-on effects to start.

You are more tired, more snacky and less inclined to go for the walk you planned.

Then you feel sluggish, so you move less.

Then you feel fed up because summer is apparently supposed to make you feel marvellous.

Again, nothing has gone spectacularly wrong.

Your body is just responding to a different set of inputs.

The holiday switch is real

Then there is holiday mode. We all have it. You can be away for twelve minutes and suddenly every normal habit has vanished. The water bottle, the morning walk, the decent breakfast.... Any rough sense of when you are hungry or when you have had enough. Gone.

Holiday brain arrives and says:

We are on holiday. All rules are suspended. Find chips.

And to be clear, I am very much in favour of chips.

The problem is when holiday mode becomes full suspension of everything that makes you feel good.

That rarely lands as relaxation. It often lands as sluggish, foggy, bloated and needing a holiday after the holiday.

Then comes the familiar background thought: I’ll sort it when I get home.

Which sounds reassuring until you remember that coming home also involves laundry, emails, supermarket shopping, work and the depressing discovery that nobody has unpacked your suitcase for you.

Why healthy habits disappear on holiday

A lot of the things you do at home are just part of your routine. You do them because it is Tuesday. You go to the gym because that is when you go. You eat a certain breakfast because the ingredients are there. You go to bed at a certain time because tomorrow is a work day.

Holiday removes the structure, which is why it can be such a useful test.

It shows you which habits are simply routine and which ones actually make a noticeable difference to how you feel.

That is the interesting bit.

Before you go away, or even if you are already there, ask yourself:

Which habits, if I kept them loosely, would help me feel better on this holiday?

Not every habit you have ever had but the useful ones.

For you, it might be moving first thing in the morning.

It might be eating a decent breakfast instead of running on coffee until 2pm.

It might be drinking enough water because heat, travel and alcohol are a fairly spectacular dehydration combo.

It might be getting to bed within an hour of your usual time on most nights because otherwise you spend the entire holiday chasing your own energy.

It might be eating some protein at lunch so that by 5pm you are not willing to sell a family member for a bag of crisps.

The list is usually shorter than you think.

Your menopause summer survival anchors

I like to think of these as anchors.

They are the things that keep you connected to feeling like yourself while everything else is a bit more flexible.

You can have the ice cream, the late lunch, the barbecue, the cocktails and the hotel breakfast.

You can also go for a walk.

You can drink some water.

You can eat a decent meal when you are hungry.

You can go to bed before midnight occasionally.

Summer does not require you to choose between having fun and feeling well.

The trick is keeping hold of the few habits that genuinely matter to you.

And those habits will be different for everyone.

For some women, sleep is the big one.

For others, movement makes the difference.

For others, eating proper meals stops the whole day becoming one long snack.

There is no gold-star version.

You are just looking for the handful of things that make you think:

Yep. I feel better when I do that.

You do not need to track lunch on a sun lounger

This is where I want to make something very clear. Feeling better through summer does not require a spreadsheet.

You do not need to be entering hummus into MyFitnessPal while everybody else is ordering gelato.

You do not need to take your own chicken breast to a barbecue.

And you definitely do not need to spend your holiday trying to “be good”.

What helps is intention.

A vague sense of what you want from the day.

Maybe you want to feel energetic enough to explore somewhere rather than needing a lie-down by lunchtime.

Maybe you want to enjoy the meals without feeling stuffed at every single one.

Maybe you want to sleep well enough that you do not come home completely wrecked.

That gives you something useful to steer by.

And when you know what you are actually aiming for, the decisions get easier.

What do you want to feel like this summer?

This is the question I think is more useful than “what should I be doing?”

How do you want to feel?

Energised?

Comfortable in your body?

Less bloated?

More rested?

Able to enjoy food without feeling like every meal is either “good” or “bad”?

More like yourself?

Once you know that, you can work backwards.

What would help?

What tends to derail it?

Which one or two habits make the biggest difference?

That is a much kinder and more effective place to start than trying to follow your normal routine perfectly in a season that is anything but normal. Because summer is not a write-off, and menopause symptoms in summer do not mean you need to clamp down harder.

They mean it is worth paying attention to what your body is asking for.

Sometimes the answer is more sleep.

Sometimes it is more food earlier in the day.

Sometimes it is less alcohol.

Sometimes it is movement.

Sometimes it is accepting that your routine needs to look different for a few weeks.

And sometimes it is realising that you are not actually sure what would help anymore.

If summer has left you thinking “what the hell is going on with me?”, start here

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